Back to Basics: How to Give a Hand Job Your Man Won’t Forget

The absolute best way to tell what your lover likes in terms of hand jobs is to learn directly from him by watching how he masturbates. If your partner feels shy about demonstrating his technique in front of you, try blindfolding him; many guys feel less inhibited when they can’t see you looking at them. 

Bear in mind that you’ll probably need to handle him a bit more softly and slowly than he does himself, but his approach to masturbation will reveal a lot about the speed and strength of grip he prefers.

A smooth, slick touch feels incredible for a man and too much stimulation without lubricant can be uncomfortable for him. Although men produce a very small amount of liquid from their penis when aroused, called ‘pre-ejaculatory fluid’ it’s rarely enough to spread over his shaft.

Use a couple of pumps of lube such as Durex Play Perfect Glide which is silicone-based, so it stays slippery for three times as long as water-based varieties. Try running the bottle under a hot tap to warm it first, before stroking it over the length of his penis!

A simple, comfortable position to use during manual stimulation is to have your man lay on his back, while you kneel between his legs or by his side – this gives you a clear view of everything you’re doing, and easy access to all his sensitive parts!

Once you’re a little more confident, try straddling his chest with your back to his face; he gets a great view of your behind, whilst you’ll probably feel more relaxed knowing he’s not scrutinising your every move. You could also experiment with standing behind him, and reaching your hand around his hips to hold his penis; he could even wrap his hand lightly over yours and guide your movements.

If your man is uncircumcised, you’ll want to move his foreskin gently with the motion of your hand. Remember that pulling the foreskin completely back and fully exposing the head of the penis, the glans, may be too overwhelmingly intense for some men. If your lover is circumcised, his glans is likely to be fractionally less sensitive; you may find he needs more lube, pressure, or stimulation.

The basic hand job movement is an up-and-down motion. Keep your actions fluid, not jerky. Start slowly, wrapping your dominant hand around his erect shaft with about the same tension that you’d use to hold a glass of water, and running it back and forth.

Follow the natural angle of his penis; his erection may not be at a perfect 90 degrees. Your hand should retain constant contact with his skin; close your fingers together a little as you reach the head, then loosen them as you travel back down towards the base.

If you feel a little more confident, try varying your technique. Using two hands in a cycle of smooth upstrokes; your left hand beginning to travel up from the base just as your right reaches the head. See whether your partner responds well to you gently twisting your hand back and forth as you slide it up and down him; explore whether he enjoys you rubbing your thumb in small circles over the tip of his penis and his frenulum (the delicate ‘string’ of tissue connecting the head to the shaft).

While you’re caressing his penis, think about very tenderly cupping his testicles, massaging his perineum, or stroking the insides of his thighs. Stimulating these other sensitive areas as well as his penis will get him really aroused and worked up!

Encourage your lover to give you supportive feedback on how the hand job feels, and don’t be afraid to ask questions – he’ll love how eager you are to provide him with maximum pleasure.

Some men like a steady pumping pace as they’re about to climax, whilst others prefer you to make the rhythm of your hand faster. Ask your man how he’d like you to move! After climax, the penis is usually too sensitive to be touched at all. Give him a moment to savour the awesome waves of ecstasy running through him!